Where is the Love???

But there's a danger in loving somebody too much
And it's sad when you know it's your heart you can't trust
There's a reason why people don't stay where they are
Baby sometimes love just ain't enough

I don’t know why but this song was swimming in my head for the whole morning. But it got me thinking. So what exactly is love? The American Heritage dictionary defines love as “A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.”

So when you say you love someone, you probably would fulfil the statement in bold above. “Love” decreases when a factor of the statement diminishes. Eg. When the recognition of attractive qualities decreases. This is probably the main reason why so many relationships fall apart. It is due to the fact that the love just dies out in that relationship. But few would realise that the amount of ‘love’ is neither constant nor does it remain remains unchanged.

In any relationship there must always be effort put in by either party to ensure that the amount of ‘love’ stays the same or increases. If ‘love’ ever had an SI unit, what would it be? Some would say Ampere, also known as the amount of electric charge. Aptly demonstrated when the handsome hunky dude at the bar buys you a drink or when the pretty dudette with lingering Estee Lauder perfume and long silky flowing hair smiles as she walks pass you.

That is love at first sight. But not exactly the way I would measure love. Sooner or later one would realise that first impressions while important, counts for little in the long run. We have to understand the underlying reasons for truly loving someone. While it is not always explainable or comprehensive, it is understood by the someone who loves. Therefore when we love someone, it has to be a feeling that is deep inside the heart. We have to be sure if the relationship is worth the effort to upkeep. How to judge its worth? Refer to the statement in bold above.

We all need companions in life. These come in form of family, friends, and also the other significant half of our life. Love is the reason why we keep them in our lives or why somehow they fade away from our lives. It is essential to work hard in order to preserve the close relationships that you and I now share with so many others. It pains me to see an old good friend on the street and I'm wondering how's he doing. Hope none of you all ever experience that too. It sucks.

There's no such thing as sometimes love just ain't enough. But there's something known as not working hard enough.